Monthly Archive: May 2020

Coaches Hot Seat Quotes of the Day – Thursday, May 21, 2020 – Paul “Bear” Bryant

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“Mama wanted me to be a preacher. I told her coachin’ and preachin’ were a lot alike.”

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“But it’s still a coach’s game. Make no mistake. You start at the top. If you don’t have a good one at the top, you don’t have a cut dog’s chance. If you do, the rest falls into place. You have to have good assistants, and a lot of things, but first you have to have the chairman of the board.”

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“If anything goes bad, I did it. If anything goes semi-good, we did it. If anything goes really good, then you did it. That’s all it takes to get people to win football games for you.”

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“I think the most important thing of all for any team is a winning attitude. The coaches must have it. The players must have it. The student body must have it. If you have dedicated players who believe in themselves, you don’t need a lot of talent.”

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“The idea of molding men means a lot to me.”

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“You must learn how to hold a team together. You must lift some men up, calm others down, until finally they’ve got one heartbeat. Then you’ve got yourself a team.”

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“If wanting to win is a fault, as some of my critics seem to insist, then I plead guilty. I like to win. I know no other way. It’s in my blood.”

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“Get the winners into the game.”

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“The old lessons (work, self-discipline, sacrifice, teamwork, fighting to achieve) aren’t being taught by many people other than football coaches these days. The football coach has a captive audience and can teach these lessons because the communication lines between himself and his players are more wide open than between kids and parents. We better teach these lessons or else the country’s future population will be made up of a majority of crooks, drug addicts, or people on relief.”

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“Sacrifice. Work. Self-discipline. I teach these things, and my boys don’t forget them when they leave.”

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“It’s not the will to win that matters – everyone has that. It’s the will to prepare to win that matters.”

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“I’ll never give up on a player regardless of his ability as long as he never gives up on himself. In time he will develop.”

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“Set goals – high goals for you and your organization. When your organization has a goal to shoot for, you create teamwork, people working for a common good.”

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“Don’t talk too much. Don’t pop off. Don’t talk after the game until you cool off.”

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“You have to learn what makes this or that Sammy run. For one it’s a pat on the back, for another it’s eating him out, for still another it’s a fatherly talk, or something else. You’re a fool if you think as I did as a young coach, that you can treat them all alike.”

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“If a man is a quitter, I’d rather find out in practice than in a game. I ask for all a player has so I’ll know later what I can expect.”

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“Find your own picture, your own self in anything that goes bad. It’s awfully easy to mouth off at your staff or chew out players, but if it’s bad, and you’re the head coach, you’re responsible. If we have an intercepted pass, I threw it. I’m the head coach. If we get a punt blocked, I caused it. A bad practice, a bad game, it’s up to the head coach to assume his responsibility.”

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“It’s awfully important to win with humility. It’s also important to lose with humility. I hate to lose worse than anyone, but if you never lose you won’t know how to act. If you lose with humility, then you can come back.”

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“Losing doesn’t make me want to quit. It makes me want to fight that much harder.”

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“The biggest mistake coaches make is taking borderline cases and trying to save them. I’m not talking about grades now, I’m talking about character. I want to know before a boy enrolls about his home life, and what his parents want him to be.”

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“What are you doing here? Tell me why you are here. If you are not here to win a national championship, you’re in the wrong place. You boys are special. I don’t want my players to be like other students. I want special people. You can learn a lot on the football field that isn’t taught in the home, the church, or the classroom. There are going to be days when you think you’ve got no more to give and then you’re going to give plenty more. You are going to have pride and class. You are going to be very special. You are going to win the national championship for Alabama.”

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“I’m no innovator. If anything I’m a stealer, or borrower. I’ve stolen or borrowed from more people than you can shake a stick at.”

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“There is no sin in not liking to play; it’s a mistake for a boy to be there if he doesn’t want to.”

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“I’m no miracle man. I guarantee nothing but hard work.”

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“Don’t overwork your squad. If you’re going to make a mistake, under-work them.”

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“Be aware of “yes” men. Generally, they are losers. Surround yourself with winners. Never forget – people win.”

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“If there is one thing that has helped me as a coach, it’s my ability to recognize winners, or good people who can become winners by paying the price.”

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“You take those little rascals, talk to them good, pat them on the back, let them think they are good, and they will go out and beat the biguns.”

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“If you whoop and holler all the time, the players just get used to it.”

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“I know what it takes to win. If I can sell them on what it takes to win, then we are not going to lose too many football games.”

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“If you want to coach you have three rules to follow to win. One, surround yourself with people who can’t live without football. I’ve had a lot of them. Two, be able to recognize winners. They come in all forms. And, three, have a plan for everything. A plan for practice, a plan for the game. A plan for being ahead, and a plan for being behind 20-0 at half, with your quarterback hurt and the phones dead, with it raining cats and dogs and no rain gear because the equipment man left it at home.”

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“My approach to the game has been the same at all the places I’ve been. Vanilla. The sure way. That means, first of all, to win physically. If you got eleven on a field, and they beat the other eleven physically, they’ll win. They will start forcing mistakes. They’ll win in the fourth quarter.”

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“Little things make the difference. Everyone is well prepared in the big things, but only the winners perfect the little things.”

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“Scout yourself. Have a buddy who coaches scout you.”

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“The first time you quit, it’s hard. The second time, it gets easier. The third time, you don’t even have to think about it.”

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“But there’s one thing about quitters you have to guard against – they are contagious. If one boy goes, the chances are he’ll take somebody with him, and you don’t want that. So when they would start acting that way, I used to pack them up and get them out, or embarrass them, or do something to turn them around.”

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“There’s a lot of blood, sweat, and guts between dreams and success.”

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“People who are in it for their own good are individualists. They don’t share the same heartbeat that makes a team so great. A great unit, whether it be football or any organization, shares the same heartbeat.”

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“I told them my system was based on the “ant plan,” that I’d gotten the idea watching a colony of ants in Africa during the war. A whole bunch of ants working toward a common goal.”

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“We can’t have two standards, one set for the dedicated young men who want to do something ambitious and one set for those who don’t.”

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“I honestly believe that if you are willing to out-condition the opponent, have confidence in your ability, be more aggressive than your opponent and have a genuine desire for team victory, you will become the national champions. If you have all the above, you will acquire confidence and poise, and you will have those intangibles that win the close ones.”

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“If you believe in yourself and have dedication and pride – and never quit – you’ll be a winner. The price of victory is high but so are the rewards.”

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“Don’t ever give up on ability. Don’t give up on a player who has it.”

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“A good, quick, small team can beat a big, slow team any time.”

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“I have always tried to teach my players to be fighters. When I say that, I don’t mean put up your dukes and get in a fistfight over something. I’m talking about facing adversity in your life. There is not a person alive who isn’t going to have some awfully bad days in their lives. I tell my players that what I mean by fighting is when your house burns down, and your wife runs off with the drummer, and you’ve lost your job and all the odds are against you. What are you going to do? Most people just lay down and quit. Well, I want my people to fight back.”

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“If they don’t have a winning attitude, I don’t want them.”

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“I have tried to teach them to show class, to have pride, and to display character. I think football, winning games, takes care of itself if you do that.”

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“I always want my players to show class, knock’em down, pat on the back, and run back to the huddle.”

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“I tell young players who want to be coaches, who think they can put up with all the headaches and heartaches, can you live without it? If you can live without it, don’t get in it.”

Wikipedia:  Paul “Bear” Bryant

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Coaches Hot Seat Quotes of the Day – Wednesday, May 20, 2020 – George S. Patton

“Accept the challenges so that you can feel the exhilaration of victory.”

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“Always do everything you ask of those you command.”

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“Americans love to fight. All real Americans love the sting of battle.”

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“Americans play to win at all times. I wouldn’t give a hoot and hell for a man who lost and laughed. That’s why Americans have never lost nor ever lose a war.”

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“Better to fight for something than live for nothing.”

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“Courage is fear holding on a minute longer.”

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“Don’t tell people how to do things, tell them what to do and let them surprise you with their results.”

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“I don’t measure a man’s success by how high he climbs but how high he bounces when he hits bottom.”

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“If a man has done his best, what else is there?”

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“If everyone is thinking alike, then somebody isn’t thinking.”

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“If we take the generally accepted definition of bravery as a quality which knows no fear, I have never seen a brave man. All men are frightened. The more intelligent they are, the more they are frightened.”

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“It is foolish and wrong to mourn the men who died. Rather we should thank God that such men lived.”

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“Nobody ever defended anything successfully, there is only attack and attack and attack some more.”

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“The time to take counsel of your fears is before you make an important battle decision. That’s the time to listen to every fear you can imagine! When you have collected all the facts and fears and made your decision, turn off all your fears and go ahead!”

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“There is only one sort of discipline, perfect discipline.”

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“We herd sheep, we drive cattle, we lead people. Lead me, follow me, or get out of my way.”

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“You need to overcome the tug of people against you as you reach for high goals.”

Wikipedia Page:  George S. Patton

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Coaches Hot Seat Blog Quotes of the Day – Tuesday, May 19, 2020 – Louis L’Amour

“A good beginning makes a good end.” 

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“A wise man fights to win, but he is twice a fool who has no plan for possible defeat.”

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“All loose things seem to drift down to the sea, and so did I.”

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“Anger is a killing thing: it kills the man who angers, for each rage leaves him less than he had been before – it takes something from him.” 

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“For one who reads, there is no limit to the number of lives that may be lived, for fiction, biography, and history offer an inexhaustible number of lives in many parts of the world, in all periods of time.”

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“He might never really do what he said, but at least he had it in mind. He had somewhere to go.”

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“Knowledge is like money: to be of value it must circulate, and in circulating it can increase in quantity and, hopefully, in value.” 

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“No memory is ever alone; it’s at the end of a trail of memories, a dozen trails that each have their own associations.”

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“No one can get an education, for of necessity education is a continuing process.”

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“Nobody got anywhere in the world by simply being content.”

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“There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. Yet that will be the beginning.”

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“To disbelieve is easy; to scoff is simple; to have faith is harder.”

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“To make democracy work, we must be a notion of participants, not simply observers. One who does not vote has no right to complain.”

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“Too often I would hear men boast of the miles covered that day, rarely of what they had seen.”

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“Victory is won not in miles but in inches. Win a little now, hold your ground, and later, win a little more.”

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“One day I was speeding along at the typewriter, and my daughter – who was a child at the time – asked me, “Daddy, why are you writing so fast?” And I replied, “Because I want to see how the story turns out!”

Wikipedia:  Louis L’Amour

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Coaches Hot Seat Quotes of the Day – Monday, May 18, 2020 – Amelia Earhart

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“Adventure is worthwhile in itself.”

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“Better do a good deed near at home than go far away to burn incense.”

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“Courage is the price that Life exacts for granting peace, The soul that knows it not, knows no release from little things.”

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“Flying might not be all plain sailing, but the fun of it is worth the price.”

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“I want to do it because I want to do it.”

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“In soloing – as in other activities – it is far easier to start something than it is to finish it.”

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“Never do things others can do and will do if there are things others cannot do or will not do.”

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“Never interrupt someone doing what you said couldn’t be done.”

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“Obviously I faced the possibility of not returning when first I considered going. Once faced and settled there really wasn’t any good reason to refer to it.”

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“Please know that I am aware of the hazards. I want to do it because I want to do it. Women must try to do things as men have tried. When they fail, their failure must be a challenge to others.”

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“The more one does and sees and feels, the more one is able to do, and the more genuine may be one’s appreciation of fundamental things like home, and love, and understanding companionship.”

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“The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure , the process is its own reward.”

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“The most effective way to do it, is to do it.”

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“The woman who can create her own job is the woman who will win fame and fortune.”

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“There are two kinds of stones, as everyone knows, one of which rolls.”

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“There is so much that must be done in a civilized barbarism like war.”

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“Women must pay for everything. They do get more glory than men for comparable feats, but, they also get more notoriety when they crash.”

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“Women must try to do things as men have tried. When they fail their failure must be but a challenge to others.”

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“Women, like men, should try to do the impossible. And when they fail, their failure should be a challenge to others.”

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“The more one does and sees and feels, the more one is able to do, and the more genuine may be one’s appreciation of fundamental things like home, and love, and understanding companionship.”

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“Adventure is worthwhile in itself.”

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“No kind action ever stops with itself. One kind action leads to another. Good example is followed. A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees. The greatest work that kindness does to others is that it makes them kind themselves.”

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“In my life I had come to realize that when things were going very well indeed it was just the time to anticipate trouble. And, conversely, I learned from pleasant experience that at the most despairing crisis, when all looked sour beyond words, some delightful “break” was apt to lurk just around the corner.”

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“The soul’s dominion? Each time we make a choice, we pay with courage to behold restless day and count it fair.”

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“Anticipation, I suppose, sometimes exceeds realization.”

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“The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward.”

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“Worry retards reaction and makes clear-cut decisions impossible.”

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“…decide…whether or not the goal is worth the risks involved. If it is, stop worrying….”

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“Not much more than a month ago I was on the other shore of the Pacific, looking westward. This evening, I looked eastward over the Pacific. In those fast-moving days which have intervened, the whole width of the world has passed behind us -except this broad ocean. I shall be glad when we have the hazards of its navigation behind us.” — Amelia Earhart, several days before she left for Howland Island and disappeared

Wikipedia: Amelia Earhart

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Coaches Hot Seat Quotes of the Day – Sunday, May 17, 2020 – Woody Hayes

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“I’ve had smarter people around me all my life, but I haven’t run into one yet that can outwork me. And if they can’t outwork you, then smarts aren’t going to do them much good. That’s just the way it is. And if you believe that and live by it, you’d be surprised at how much fun you can have.”

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“Without winners, there wouldn’t even be any civilization.”

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“There’s nothing that cleanses your soul like getting the hell kicked out of you.”

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“The height of human desire is what wins, whether it’s on Normandy Beach or in Ohio Stadium.”

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“I’m not coming here looking for security. I came here for the opportunity.” Upon accepting Ohio State head coaching job

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“Paralyze resistance with persistence.”

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“I don’t live in the past. I’m a student of the past, and I try to learn from the past, although some people will say, ‘You haven’t done a very good job of it.’ But for me to live in the past? Hell, no.'”

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“A man is always better than he thinks.”

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“I can accept failure, but I can’t accept not trying.”

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“The time you give a man something he doesn’t earn, you cheapen him. Our kids earn what they get, and that includes respect.”

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“Success – it ‘s what you do with what you’ve got.”

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“Coaches who can outline plays on a black board are a dime a dozen. The ones who win get inside their players heads and motivate them.”

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“I’m not trying to win a popularity poll. I’m trying to win football games. I don’t like nice people. I like tough, honest people.”

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“I don’t apologize for anything. When I make a mistake, I take the blame and go on from there. I just despise to lose, and that has taken a man of mediocre ability and made a pretty good coach out of him.”

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“Just remember one thing. I can do your job, but you can’t do mine.” – to an OSU professor

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“I love football. I think it is most wonderful game in world and I despise to lose.”

Wikipedia:  Woody Hayes

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Coaches Hot Seat Quotes of the Day – Saturday, May 16, 2020 – Eddie Robinson

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“Coaching is a profession of love. You can’t coach people unless you love them.”

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“My players can wear their hair as long as they want and dress any way they want. That is, if they can afford to pay their own tuition, meals and board.”

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“People talk about the record I’ve compiled at Grambling, but the real record is the fact that for over 50 years I’ve had one job and one wife. I don’t believe anybody can out-American me.”

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“I’ve learned more about what the players meant to me and what they meant to the game. I never won a game – they did. You learn from every player because they’re not the same.”

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“Everything I’ve done, I think I dreamed of it first.”

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“The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.”

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“Coach each boy as if he were your own son”

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“Leadership, like coaching, is fighting for the hearts and souls of men and getting them to believe in you”

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“They call me the greatest. I know that the greatest football coach who ever stepped on the field is Coach Eddie Robinson. I have admired what he has done in turning boys into men. He is a credit to his sport as well as a credit to humanity.” Muhammad Ali

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“First time I met Eddie was around 1968 up at Uniontown, Pa. I was an assistant coach at West Virginia, and he was the head coach at Grambling and very successful. He came up there and spoke at a banquet. I heard him speak, and he’s the kind of guy that you get close to immediately. … He was a people’s person. You can’t help but like him … I doubt if there is a coach in the United States that people have more respect for — and loved — than for Eddie Robinson.” Bobby Bowden

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Wikipedia: Eddie Robinson

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Coaches Hot Seat Quotes of the Day – Friday, May 15, 2020 – Ernie Banks

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“It’s a beautiful day for a ball game…. Let’s play two!” 

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“But it all comes down to friendship, treating people right.”

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“I learned from Mr. Wrigley, early in my career, that loyalty wins and it creates friendships. I saw it work for him in his business.”

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“It’s a kind of philosophy of my own life, to create the energy enough to keep on going.”

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“Loyalty and friendship, which is to me the same, created all the wealth that I’ve ever thought I’d have.”

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“Mr. Wrigley believed in this: Put all your eggs in one basket and watch the basket. They don’t do that today. This is the old-fashioned way I’m talking about. He carried it on to his business. Do one thing and stay with it.”

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“The riches of the game are in the thrills, not the money.”

Wikipedia Page:  Ernie Banks

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Coaches Hot Seat Quotes of the Day – Thursday, May 14, 2020 – Joe Namath

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“First, I prepare. Then I have faith.”

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“If you aren’t going all the way, why go at all?”

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“Till I was 13, I thought my name was “Shut Up.””

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“To be a leader, you have to make people want to follow you, and nobody wants to follow someone who doesn’t know where he is going.”

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“We’re going to win Sunday. I guarantee it.”

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“When we won the league championship, all the married guys on the club had to thank their wives for putting up with all the stress and strain all season. I had to thank all the single broads in New York.”

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“When you have confidence, you can have a lot of fun. And when you have fun, you can do amazing things.”

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“When you win, nothing hurts.”

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“You learn how to be a gracious winner and an outstanding loser.”

Wikipedia:  Joe Namath

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Coaches Hot Seat Quotes of the Day – Wednesday, May 13, 2020 – Peter Drucker

“A manager is responsible for the application and performance of knowledge.”

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“Checking the results of a decision against its expectations shows executives what their strengths are, where they need to improve, and where they lack knowledge or information.”

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“Effective leadership is not about making speeches or being liked; leadership is defined by results not attributes.”

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“Efficiency is doing things right; effectiveness is doing the right things.”

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“Knowledge has to be improved, challenged, and increased constantly, or it vanishes.”

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“Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things.”

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“People who don’t take risks generally make about two big mistakes a year. People who do take risks generally make about two big mistakes a year.”

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“The entrepreneur always searches for change, responds to it, and exploits it as an opportunity.”

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“The only thing we know about the future is that it will be different.”

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“Time is the scarcest resource and unless it is managed nothing else can be managed.”

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“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans.”

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“Management by objective works – if you know the objectives. Ninety percent of the time you don’t.”

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“Never mind your happiness; do your duty.”

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“The best way to predict the future is to create it.”

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“We now accept the fact that learning is a lifelong process of keeping abreast of change. And the most pressing task is to teach people how to learn.”

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“Morale in an organization does not mean that “people get along together”; the test is performance not conformance.”

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“A man should never be appointed into a managerial position if his vision focuses on people’s weaknesses rather than on their strengths.” The Practice of Management (1954)

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“It does not matter whether the worker wants responsibility or not, …The enterprise must demand it of him.” The Practice of Management (1954)

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“The postwar [WWII] GI Bill of Rights–and the enthusiastic response to it on the part of America’s veterans–signaled the shift to the knowledge society. Future historians may consider it the most important event of the twentieth century. We are clearly in the midst of this transformation; indeed, if history is any guide, it will not be completed until 2010 or 2020. But already it has changed the political, economic and moral landscape of the world.” Managing in a Time of Great Change (1995)

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“Most discussions of decision making assume that only senior executives make decisions or that only senior executives’ decisions matter. This is a dangerous mistake.”

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“Never mind your happiness; do your duty.”

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“Rank does not confer privilege or give power. It imposes responsibility.”

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“Management by objective works – if you know the objectives. Ninety percent of the time you don’t.”

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“Knowledge has to be improved, challenged, and increased constantly, or it vanishes.”

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“We now accept the fact that learning is a lifelong process of keeping abreast of change. And the most pressing task is to teach people how to learn.”

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“No institution can possibly survive if it needs geniuses or supermen to manage it. It must be organized in such a way as to be able to get along under a leadership composed of average human beings.”

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“The best way to predict the future is to create it.”

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“Business, that’s easily defined – it’s other people’s money.”

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“Trying to predict the future is like trying to drive down a country road at night with no lights while looking out the back window.”

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“The entrepreneur always searches for change, responds to it, and exploits it as an opportunity.”

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“Making good decisions is a crucial skill at every level.”

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‘Today knowledge has power. It controls access to opportunity and advancement.”

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“Follow effective action with quiet reflection. From the quiet reflection will come even more effective action.”

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“The purpose of business is to create and keep a customer.”

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“The leaders who work most effectively, it seems to me, never say ‘I’. And that’s not because they have trained themselves not to say ‘I’. They don’t think ‘I’. They think ‘we’; they think ‘team’. They understand their job to be to make the team function. They accept responsibility and don’t sidestep it, but ‘we’ gets the credit…. This is what creates trust, what enables you to get the task done.”

Wikipedia:  Peter Drucker

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Coaches Hot Seat Quotes of the Day – Tuesday, May 12, 2020 – David Packard

“Take risks. Ask big questions. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes; if you don’t make mistakes, you’re not reaching far enough.”

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“Why are we here? I think many people assume, wrongly, that a company exists solely to make money. Money is an important part of a company’s existence, if the company is any good. But a result is not a cause. We have to go deeper and find the real reason for our being.”

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“Marketing is too important to be left to the marketing department.”

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“To remain static is to lose ground.”

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“A group of people get together and exist as an institution we call a company so they are able to accomplish something collectively that they could not accomplish separately – they make a contribution to society, a phrase which sounds trite but is fundamental.”

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“The greatest success goes to the person who is not afraid to fail in front of even the largest audience.”

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“Set out to build a company and make a contribution, not an empire and a fortune.”

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“A company that focuses solely on profits ultimately betrays both itself and society.”

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11 Simple Rules

“1. Think first of the other fellow. This is THE foundation – the first requisite – for getting along with others. And it is the one truly difficult accomplishment you must make. Gaining this, the rest will be “a breeze.”

2. Build up the other person’s sense of importance. When we make the other person seem less important, we frustrate one of his deepest urges. Allow him to feel equality or superiority, and we can easily get along with him.

3. Respect the other man’s personality rights. Respect as something sacred the other fellow’s right to be different from you. No two personalities are ever molded by precisely the same forces.

4. Give sincere appreciation. If we think someone has done a thing well, we should never hesitate to let him know it. WARNING: This does not mean promiscuous use of obvious flattery. Flattery with most intelligent people gets exactly the reaction it deserves – contempt for the egotistical “phony” who stoops to it.

5. Eliminate the negative. Criticism seldom does what its user intends, for it invariably causes resentment. The tiniest bit of disapproval can sometimes cause a resentment which will rankle – to your disadvantage – for years.

6. Avoid openly trying to reform people. Every man knows he is imperfect, but he doesn’t want someone else trying to correct his faults. If you want to improve a person, help him to embrace a higher working goal – a standard, an ideal – and he will do his own “making over” far more effectively than you can do it for him.

7. Try to understand the other person. How would you react to similar circumstances? When you begin to see the “whys” of him you can’t help but get along better with him.

8. Check first impressions. We are especially prone to dislike some people on first sight because of some vague resemblance (of which we are usually unaware) to someone else whom we have had reason to dislike. Follow Abraham Lincoln’s famous self-instruction: “I do not like that man; therefore I shall get to know him better.”

9. Take care with the little details. Watch your smile, your tone of voice, how you use your eyes, the way you greet people, the use of nicknames and remembering faces, names and dates. Little things add polish to your skill in dealing with people. Constantly, deliberately think of them until they become a natural part of your personality.

10. Develop genuine interest in people. You cannot successfully apply the foregoing suggestions unless you have a sincere desire to like, respect, and be helpful to others. Conversely, you cannot build genuine interest in people until you have experienced the pleasure of working with them in an atmosphere characterized by mutual liking and respect.

11. Keep it up. That’s all—just keep it up!”

Wikipedia:  David Packard, Stanford University BA (1934), MA (1939)

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